July 2022 Nonviolent Communication Newsletter

Published: Fri, 07/01/22

  July 2022
     
NVC Monthly Newsletter
     

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Our most recently updated topic is written on Intercultural Communication.

Our website covers over 35 different topics from an NVC perspective-all written by a senior certified trainer. Please read some to learn more.

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What You'll Find in This Month's Newsletter:
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Events
Articles
Book Specials
Compassion in Action
  • Compassion in Action - The Man in the Queue
Distance Learning Opportunities
  • NVC Academy
  • The Center for Nonviolent Communication Trainings
Book Excerpts
  • Special Sneak Peak Chapter from The Heart of NVC releasing Spring of 2023 - Chapter 6 "Observation and Observation Mixed With Evaluation"
  • Dementia Together - Chapter 1
  • Words that Work in Business - Chapter 1
  • Being Genuine - Chapter 1
Handouts
  • Conflict Resolution Play - creative outlet for the youth
  • Downloads
  • Recommended Links
Humor
  • ANVC (Almost Nonviolent Communication) Cartoons
  • PuddleDancer Press Cartoon
NVC in the News
  • Healing conversations for nation-building| The Manila Times
Peaceful Daily Reflection/Meditation
  • Getting Past Our Hurt Feelings
Resources
  • Becoming a CNVC certified trainer
  • Guidelines for Sharing NVC for Individuals who are not Certified Trainers
  • List of 90+ NVC Facebook Groups
Songs
  • See Me Beautiful - Marshall Rosenberg
Poem
  • Values to Live by...
NVC Resources
  1. NVC TIP SERIES (Free daily and weekly tips)
  2. FREE RESOURCES
  3. NVC FACEBOOK GROUPS
  4. NEW ** NVC LINKEDIN GROUPS ** NEW
     
 
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Articles
Nonviolent Communication Between Cultures
     
     

How does Nonviolent Communication (NVC) work between cultures?
Does NVC even work cross-culturally?
It’s common enough for people from the same culture to misunderstand each other — let alone adding cultural differences!
Part of the issue is that culture is largely invisible to us.
Culture is to people like water is to fish.
Consider this Chinese proverb: A fish can’t see the water it is in, unless it jumps out of its fish bowl.
Or a more contemporary version: “One thing about which fish know exactly nothing is water, since they have no anti-environment which would enable them to perceive the element they live in.” ― Marshall McLuhan, War and Peace in the Global Village
Culture can be like that.
We grow up so immersed in the modes of thinking and interacting that come with our culture that they become invisible to us, much like the lenses of a pair of glasses.
This level of embeddedness in our own culture, our and others’ inability to see it, and the misunderstandings that arise merely based on cultural interpretations — these are facts of everyday life, as invisible to most of us as water might be to fish.
And yet, NVC does work across cultures...

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The Universal Language of Life by Thom Bond
     

My long-term thing is that we need to evolve, literally, to become a species that does not kill itself. What does that look like? There’s a list of answers, and one of them is that we become really good at conflict resolution, just like we’re good at building things, and we’re good at other things. Part of that is to learn to counteract our impulses.

I love the word “compass.” It’s not just from compassion. There are around twelve definitions, and I love them all. I wish that humans would understand that we’re genetically at a disadvantage. Our bodies were designed to live in a culture that’s no longer to be found. It’s time to adapt, we have to become the next version, and how do we do that?...

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Bemidbar | Building A World Where Everyone Matters by Roberta Wall
     

Thus begins the fourth book of Torah, Bemidbar, In the Desert Wilderness, historically translated as the Book of Numbers. This week we draw on these Torah verses to deepen and illuminate the Nonviolent Communication skill of making requests and the Buddhist principle of non attachment.

Ownerlessness/Nonattachment
Jewish tradition reads the opening verse as a call from Life Unfolding to empty ourselves of possessiveness and attachment, making ourselves like the desert wilderness...

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What is an Observation in NVC? by Rachelle Lamb
     

For those who are familiar with Nonviolent Communication, you already know that one of the 4 steps of the NVC process (typically the first) is to be able to make a clear observation. My own approach to teaching OBSERVATIONS is very simple and based on the above excerpt from Marshall’s book. I offer exercises similar to those in Marshall Rosenberg’s book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (Chapter 3: Observing Without Evaluating) to help people recognize the distinct difference between observations and evaluations...

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Dementia Together
Words that Work in Business
Being Genuine

     
Compassion in Action
Man in the Queue

We have shared this before but because it’s such a powerful and compassionate example we wanted to share it again.

     
     
     
Handouts
Nonviolent Communication Free Handouts and Links
     

Conflict Resolution Made Easy
Conflict Resolution Play - creative outlet for the youth

Downloads:
Key Facts About NVC
The 4-Part NVC Process
Feelings and Needs We All Have
Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings from John Kinyon

Recommended Links:
Pathways to Connect – NVC Handouts
Cascadia Workshops – Intro to NVC Handout
Street Giraffe – Handy Handouts
NVC Next Gen – NVC Informational Handouts
Radical Compassion – NVC Handouts
Nonviolent Communication Handouts
Marshall Rosenberg NVC Handouts
Marshall Rosenberg Videos on Youtube

     

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Book Excerpts
Heart of NVC - Chapter 6
     

During my certification journey, my beloved assessor, Penny Wassman, strongly encouraged me to publish my writings on the key differentiations. Once certified, I continued to explore the key distinctions with fellow CNVC trainers and assessors, as well as with my NVC students and CNVC trainer candidates. After a joyful reunion in Italy with my very first NVC empathy buddy and close friend, Kristin Collier, and after savoring her memoir Housewife: Home-remaking in a Transgender Marriage , I invited Kristin to join me in this project. Together we wrote "The Heart of Nonviolent Communication: 25 Keys to Shift From Separation to Connection" that will be published by PDP April 1st 2023.

As the community of certified trainers continues to deeply engage in lively conversations, such as the understanding of observations, to harness the collective wisdom, we are grateful to PDP for the willingness to offer this chapter now in hopes that our exploration might support the inquiry. We imagine that some of you may at times disagree with our understanding of NVC. We welcome you to engage in a process of discernment with curiosity, to find your own truth. In our experience, a willingness to explore beyond our present understanding allows for learning, choice, and clarity about what matters most to us.

Stephanie Bachmann Mattei, PhD
https://www.stephaniebachmannmattei.com

Kristin Collier
https://www.collierconnections.com

     
     

Read the excerpt here

     
Dementia Together - Chapter 1
     
     

Read the excerpt here
Buy the book on special here - 50% off

     
Words that Work in Business - Chapter 1
     
     

Read the excerpt here
Buy the book on special here - 50% off

Being Genuine - Chapter 1
     
     

Read the excerpt here
Buy the book on special here - 50% off

     

“Use anger as a wake-up call to unmet needs.”

Marshall Rosenberg

     
     
Poem
     
     
     
Humor
ANVC (Almost Nonviolent Communication) Cartoons
     
     

Cartoons by Sven Hartenstein

     

Conceived by Meiji Stewart. Illustrated by David Blaisdell.

     
     
Resources
Becoming a CNVC Certified Trainer

CNVC is committed to the vision of a critical mass of the world's population using Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to resolve differences peacefully. A strong community of qualified trainers will play an important role in the realization of this goal.

Introduction to the Certification Process
Guidelines for Sharing NVC for Individuals who are not Certified Trainers

     
NVC Facebook Groups

List of 90+ NVC Facebook Groups

     
     

“We need to receive empathy to give empathy.”

Marshall Rosenberg

     
     
Distance Learning Opportunities
NVC Academy
The NVC Academy offers hundreds of affordable online personal growth courses and resources to learn Nonviolent Communication from home.
     
     

Visit the NVC Academy

     
The Center for Nonviolent Communication
The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) is a global organization that supports the learning and sharing of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and helps people peacefully and effectively resolve conflicts in personal, organizational, and political settings.
     
     

Visit CNVC.org/Trainings

     
     
News
NVC in the News!
     
Songs
     
     

“Every time I mess up is a chance to practice.”

Marshall Rosenberg

     
     
Peaceful Living - Getting Past Our Hurt Feelings
Stay Connected to the Values of Compassion With the Free 365 Daily Peaceful Living Meditations.
     
I have to stay “turned on” all the time, to keep my receptivity to what is around me totally open. Preconception is fatal to this process. Vulnerability is implicit in it; pain inevitable.
—Anne Truitt
     

Getting Past Our Hurt Feelings
Are you feeling hurt, disappointed, or angry? Often these feelings signal a need for recognition or acknowledgment. When you consider your underlying needs, you may be unable to think of a way to meet them. You may instead tell yourself that you are too needy, and continue to feel uncomfortable...

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Sign Up for the 365 Daily Meditations
Learn about the book here

     
     
NVC - Additional Resources
  1. NVC TIP SERIES (Free daily and weekly tips)
  2. FREE RESOURCES
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