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NVC Monthly NewsletterJuly 2024 |
What You'll Find in This Month's Newsletter:Events - Upcoming International Intensive Trainings (IIT)
- 2024 Compassion Course - Late Registration Ends July
7th
- First Generation NVCers’ In-Person Retreat: An Even Deeper Dive into Knowing and Living the Roots of NVC as Received Directly from Marshall Rosenberg, March 9-14, 2025
Articles - Nonviolent Communication and Abortion
- The Long View
of Ending War by Thom Bond
- Marshall Rosenberg most inspiring quotes and intro to NVC by Rosaria Cirillo
Fundraisers - NVC Academy Fundraiser
- Fundraiser for IIT Folks - Help Bridge Divides
Book
Specials 50% OFF both full Retail and eBooks Price - Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
- Nonviolent Communication Companion
Workbook
- Nonviolent Communication Toolkit for Facilitators
Distance Learning Opportunities - NVC Academy
- The Center for Nonviolent Communication Trainings
Book Excerpts - New Chapters to Read!! - Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life - Chapter 2
- Nonviolent Communication Companion Workbook - Chapter 2
- Nonviolent Communication Toolkit for Facilitators - Chapter 2
Handouts - Downloads
- Recommended Links
Peaceful Daily Reflection/Meditation - Being Persistent About Getting Our Needs Met
Poem Resources - Becoming a CNVC certified trainer
- Guidelines for Sharing NVC for Individuals who are not Certified Trainers
NVC in the News - Business Sense: Applying nonviolent communication as a best business practice | Times Standard
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CNVC - International Intensive Trainings Description You'll be immersed in a community of people learning, practicing, and applying Nonviolent Communication from the moment you sign up. Each of CNVC's IITs are hosted in different countries and languages in effort to expand their reach for all who wish to experience the depth of NVC and connect with a growing community of passionate learners and practitioners. Upcoming IITs - Denmark - Starts August 16th
- United States(NM) - Starts September 6th
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2024 Compassion Course - Late Registration Ends July 7th Description: As we humans have developed other technologies, the technology of compassion has been developed too. This course provides the “how to” of creating more understanding, empathy, and compassion in our daily lives – a way to create a world we will be happy to leave our children’s children. The work is challenging, at times confronting, and with perseverance, practice, focus, and dedication, it
works. - Experience more harmony and understanding with important people in your life
- Have less painful, shorter conflicts
- Master self-empathy and empathy
- Have more awareness of your needs, wants and desires
- Have your needs expressed and understood
- Increase congruence between your values and actions
- Increase harmony and understanding among others
- Stay more centered, open and effective in conflicts
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First Generation NVCers’ In-Person Retreat: An Even Deeper Dive into Knowing and Living the Roots of NVC as Received Directly from Marshall Rosenberg, March 9-14, 2025 Description: As First Generation NVC trainers, we have heard a desire from NVC practitioners and those steeped in NVC to understand what was stirred in Marshall in the creation and sharing of NVC teachings with the world and to connect with those who know the history and have lived NVC for over 30 years. This retreat is an opportunity to delve into areas of NVC that may not have received as much
attention as others in recent years, and to do so as we received it from Marshall. The retreat, which will take place March 9-14, 2025 at Mary & Joseph Retreat Center at Rancho Palos Verdes (close to LAX airport in California), is intended to be an advanced-level exploration of NVC and is open to Certified Trainers and Candidates registered with CNVC. Others steeped in NVC may be considered on a case-by-case basis. Find out more about the First Generation NVCers and the event on their website: FirstGenNVCers To register, Click Here For general questions about the event, please contact the First Gens at silgiraffe@aol.com and copy firstgennvcers@fastmail.com. If you have registration questions, please contact Elke Haggerty at elke@process-works.ca.
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Nonviolent Communication and Abortion |
Nonviolent Communication and Reparationsby Alan Rafael Seid, CNVC Certified Trainer Author’s note: This article covers how NVC would address women’s reproductive health and more specifically the topic of abortion. As a male and non-doctor, I am not presenting myself as an expert on abortion. I present
this article as an expert in NVC, exploring how NVC would view abortion and women’s reproductive health. By its nature, an article of this length omits much information. In this article I try to strike a balance between objectively reporting from the perspective of NVC insights, values, and principles on the one hand, and the seemingly impossible task of omitting my personal perspective and opinions! I am open to receiving
feedback regarding important issues I may have left out, or ways in which you, the reader, think my personal bias has clouded my views on the issues. So…how does Nonviolent Communication hold the issue of abortion? The Intersection of NVC and Abortion “Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.” — Rumi The cultural and societal issues surrounding abortion specifically, and women’s reproductive health and freedom, generally, are not simple or straightforward! Violent Communication At this point, it’s useful to mention that NVC has its opposite: life- disconnected, life-alienated thinking and
language — most of which is an old habit and something we do unconsciously, and — which destroys connection, relationships, and good will. One of the characteristics of life-disconnected, life-alienated thinking and language is moralistic judgments based on rigid ideas of right/wrong, good/bad. In NVC we make the distinction between values-based judgments and moralistic judgments. One example of a values-based judgment is knowing when and when not to cross the street. Another is that I choose to listen to this podcast but not that one. There are foods I eat and foods I don’t. This is all based on what I value, and is also known as discernment. Moralistic judgments, on the other hand, have to do with who is good and right versus who is bad and wrong. This is often followed by thinking that those who are good and right deserve
to be rewarded, and those who are bad and wrong deserve to be punished. And, of course, I’m the one who gets to judge who is good and who is bad! This is the conundrum people find themselves in with regard to the issue of abortion, and so many other issues. NVC helps us transcend moralistic and punitive thinking with a way of connecting with what is important in each other’s hearts, so that we can then enter a collaborative process to find the solutions
that meet the most needs for the most people... Read More
The Long View of Ending War by Thom Bond
Making war obsolete may seem a lofty goal, and yet it becomes clearer and clearer as time passes, that it may be a necessity for our very survival as a species. We can think of war as a leftover from times when our complete annihilation was not really part of its prospect. Today, if we follow the curve of our "killing tech", this thing we humans have done for millennia, could
indeed be the end of us. That said, because war is so ingrained in our cultures, politics, behaviors and our economies, the thought of ending it as a human practice may be difficult to grasp. Add to that, our lack of skill and knowledge attenuating, let alone ending this practice, can make the very idea seem impractical or even frivolous. I'd like to say right now, things are changing. Just as all technology evolves as we find
it necessary (including energy, information, automotive, architectural, agricultural and yes, killing technology) the technology of peace has also progressed. We are learning more every day about what causes and perpetuates the human practice of institutionalized killing. Late in the last century and now in our current timeframe, a new technology, I will call Needs Awareness has emerged as a beacon of hope for many of us who have sought new ways to deal with this old and deadly thing called war.
More than just a single concept, Needs Awareness induces a myriad of ideas that give us never-before-known ways to understand our long-held, highly destructive practice of mass killing... Read More
Marshall Rosenberg most inspiring quotes and intro to NVC by Rosaria Cirillo Marshall Rosenberg (October 6, 1934 – February 7, 2015) is the American psychologist who created Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a communication process
that “helps people to exchange the information necessary to resolve conflicts and differences peacefully.” In the past two years, I have followed several NVC training modules from Yoram Mosenzom (Basic, Intermediate & Advanced Training Modules and Mediation Module) and Cara Crisler (NVC applied to Motherhood and Connecting to Children). I have deep respect for this communication methodology and highly believe in its
capability to empower and facilitate real connection to oneself and others. I especially believe that not only it can change the way we live with our family & friends, but also the way we interact with our colleagues and the way contact center professionals deliver customer service & technical support. Ultimately NVC is about empowering people to acknowledge, express, and understand needs and about empathizing with each other’s needs, so that, instead of
getting stuck on our preferred strategy, we can think of creative solutions to meet our respective needs, contributing to making life more wonderful for each other. Read More |
RESPECT IS A key element of successful conflict resolution. Marshall Rosenberg |
Would you like to support others to learn NVC? Many people across the world are longing to learn NVC, but they don’t have the financial means to do so. The NVC Academy provides many discounts and full scholarships each year. We enjoy offering these even as they affect our sustainability. As a way to continue being able to support those who are unable to pay for NVC
courses, we started the Community Support Fund. This is a place where you may choose to contribute financially towards other people’s registrations to our courses AND expand the spread of NVC in the world. Contribute to the Community Support Fund Your contribution helps to spread NVC consciousness and every penny goes to people who are requesting financial support to
attend a live course. Thank you in advance for choosing to share resources with members of our community so they may learn the life-changing power of NVC!
Help Bridge Divides with NVC Training
"The Network for Nonviolent Communication is a community of people from all walks of life. We are a diverse group of individuals across the spectrum of spirituality, politics, race and gender. Normally, people like us would never cross paths. So what brings us all together? We are learning how to bridge the divide between one another. We envision a world of collaboration, belonging and compassion. We are making that
world accessible to all through NVC training at the International Intensive Training in New Mexico." There are 16 individuals that significantly need financial support to attend the 9 day CNVC International Intensive Training in New Mexico. This group comes from all around the US, and each individual has a unique story which you can read about on the GoFundMe page.
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MOST ATTEMPTS AT resolution search for compromise, which means everybody gives something up and neither side is satisfied. NVC is different; our objective is to meet everyone’s needs fully. Marshall Rosenberg |
CDs and DVDs We offer Audio and Video of Marshall Rosenberg's teachings and wisdom. Nonviolent Communication provides powerful tools for resolving differences at personal, professional, and political levels. Dr. Rosenberg first created and began to offer Nonviolent Communication skills training to peacefully integrate schools and other public institutions during the 1960s. Since then, Dr. Rosenberg
and his associates have introduced NVC in over thirty countries to educators, students, parents, managers, mental health and health care providers, military officers, peace activists, lawyers and mediators, prisoners, police and clergy, and more. Listen or watch to the first 10 minutes of every dvd/cd!!!
These dvd’s and cd’s are copyrighted. Purchasing these from the Puddledancer Press website ensures that royalties will be paid to the Rosenberg foundation. If you view these videos/cds from other sites then no royalties are paid. Thank you for your consideration. |
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Video Details - The Basics of NVC
- Making Life Wonderful
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Audio Details - Expressing and Receiving Anger Compassionately
- Giraffe Fuel for Life
- Needs and Empathy
- Live Compassionately
- Intimate Relationships
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LOVING FAMILIES… Accentuate the positive. Balance work, rest and play. Communicate with respect. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Encourage healthy habits. Find ways to say, “I love you”. Grow with love and laughter. Help you do for yourself. Inspire interdependence. Juggle schedules to “be there”. Know there are no “perfect families”. Look for the best in each other. Make the world a better place. Never created by accident. Openly talk about whatever’s up. Provide safety and security. Quickly mend fences and move on. Remind you of your uniqueness. Savor memories and traditions. Take time to really listen and care. Understand how precious “family time” is. Value everyone’s feelings and needs. Work things out peacefully. Xperience life’s ups and downs together. Yearn to make a difference. Zoom in on what really matters. © Meiji Stewart
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TO PRACTICE THIS process of conflict resolution, we must completely abandon the goal of getting people to do what we want. Marshall Rosenberg |
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WHEN TWO DISPUTING parties have each had an opportunity to fully express what they are observing, feeling, needing, and requesting— and each has empathized with the other—a resolution can usually be reached that meets the needs of both sides. At the very least, the two can agree, in goodwill, to disagree. Marshall Rosenberg |
Nonviolent Communication A Language of Life - Chapter 2
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Nonviolent Communication Companion Workbook- Chapter 2
Nonviolent Communication Toolkit for Facilitators - Chapter 2 |
THIS ABILITY TO sense what people need is crucial in mediating conflicts. We can help by sensing what both sides need, put it into words, and then we help each side hear the other side’s needs. This creates a quality of connection that moves the conflict to successful resolution. Marshall
Rosenberg |
Certified Trainers & Sharing NVC
CNVC is committed to the vision of a critical mass of the world's population using Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to resolve differences peacefully. A strong community of qualified trainers will play an important role in the realization of this goal.
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THE MORE WE can be clear what response we’re wanting right now, the more quickly conflict moves toward resolution. Marshall Rosenberg |
The NVC Academy offers hundreds of affordable online personal growth courses and resources to learn Nonviolent Communication from home.
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The Center for Nonviolent Communication
The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) is a global organization that supports the learning and sharing of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and helps people peacefully and effectively resolve conflicts in personal, organizational, and political settings.
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NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION REQUIRES us to be conscious that all the thinking that’s going on inside us that makes us angry is a tragic expression of our needs. Marshall Rosenberg |
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By perseverance, the snail reached the ark. —Charles Haddon Spurgeon
Being Persistent About Getting Our Needs Met Do you ever find yourself in an argument that doesn’t seem to have a solution? Consider this couple’s situation. The husband picks up after himself and he likes a neat home; the wife tends to put things down and leave them there. Their
arguments usually involve the husband accusing the wife of being lazy and uncaring, and the wife accusing the husband of being rigid. The only two strategies that they can come up with are either the husband picks up for both of them or the wife tries to pick up for herself. But she usually doesn’t stick with it for long and the argument starts over. Sometimes people get stuck in this kind of argument for years. How about a different approach? Let’s
consider the needs. The husband may need orderliness and cooperation, while the wife may need spontaneity and autonomy. Suppose he says to her: “You know, when I come home and see your clothes on the floor from the living room to the bedroom, I feel confused and annoyed because yesterday I heard you say that you would start picking up your things. Did I hear you correctly yesterday?” “Well, yeah, but you know I came home and jumped in the shower. I meant to pick up the clothes, but then I
started reading the paper and just forgot.” “So, your intention was to pick up your clothes, but then you got distracted?” “Yeah. That’s it.” “You know, when I hear that I feel annoyed because I’d really like to trust that you’ll follow through on your commitments. Do you think you heard my request to pick up your things as a demand?” “Of course it’s a demand. If I don’t do it your way, I’m in trouble.” “I can see how you’d think that because I have been really upset about this issue for a long
time. But I’d like you to hear it differently now. I really do value orderliness, but I also value your need for autonomy and spontaneity. I’d truly like for us to create a solution that meets both of our needs. Would you be willing to brainstorm ideas with me that might accomplish that?” Can you imagine new solutions to this ongoing conflict? It’s especially difficult to be creative when you are emotionally charged by the situation. Here are a few ideas:
She pays someone to clean the house weekly; they put a box by the front door for all the clothes she takes off; she has one room in the house designated hers where she can be as untidy as she likes; he has one room that’s his and keeps it as tidy as he likes; or he continues to tidy the house for both of them and she adds other duties to her list, such as the laundry or yard work. The point is that there are numerous ways to meet these needs. The trick is to be creative and flexible in choosing
strategies. Be aware of your needs today and be creative and flexible about getting them met. |
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