December 2024 Newsletter - Nonviolent Communication & Worry
Published: Mon, 12/09/24
NVC Monthly Newsletter
December 2024
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Our most recently featured topic is written on worry. Our website covers over 50 different topics from an NVC perspective-all written by a senior certified trainer. Please read some to learn more.
You'll be immersed in a community of people learning, practicing, and applying Nonviolent Communication from the moment you sign up.
Each of CNVC's IITs are hosted in different countries and languages in effort to expand their reach for all who wish to experience the depth of NVC and connect with a growing community of passionate learners and practitioners.
Featuring the CNVC International Intensive Training in Kenya
Join us in deepening your understanding of how NVC can enrich us through 4 online Q&A sessions. For all experience levels.
Are you considering coming to the Kenya IIT in April 2025?
Are you curious about the culture in Kenya?
Would you like to know more about the venue where you will be staying?
Do you want to hear from the trainers about their passion for sharing NVC in various parts of Africa?
Are you dreaming of combining your journey to the IIT with an experience of African wildlife?
In these four sessions, we welcome all the questions you want answered, to help you decide to participate in the Kenya IIT. A very wonderful support to running the IIT is your presence at the IIT in the role of a paying participant.
Each session will have a topic in addition to answering questions:
7th December: The Importance of Needs + Question and Answer session for
IIT Kenya on donation basis.
15th December: My judging mind + Question and Answer session for IIT Kenya on donation basis.
28th December: Needs and conflicts + Question and Answer session for IIT Kenya on donation basis.
3rd January: Needs and culture + Question and Answer session for IIT Kenya on donation basis.
Join this online Q&A session on the IIT and Nonviolent Communication to learn, share and be inspired both by the impact that NVC is making in this region (where access to NVC has been historically limited), as well as by the ways in which African knowledge systems can enrich the
practice of non-violence.
The trainers in the Kenya IIT April 2025 all have extensive connections and experience of collaboration with many different African communities. They will speak about their work, how NVC touches lives and leads to more self-connection and liberation while also inspiring people to take action towards social change, and creating more peaceful and harmonious communities.
Many Kenyans lack the financial resources to receive the in-depth training that they need in order to become leaders in their own communities. The Kenya IIT relies strongly on
support from people who find joy and meaning in donating money to make this event happen. You could contribute to the IIT by donating what you are called to, to further NVC in the African continent and support the spread of non-violence. We urge you to open your hearts to support our global community, who are committed to spreading the message of NVC in communities that are tucked away unheard and unseen to the world. You can donate here.
What makes this IIT unique?
Knowledge - Bridges - Youth - Culture
Empowerment through Knowledge: Participate in exercises, explorations and discussions on mediation, empathic listening, childhood trauma healing, and nonviolent youth
activism.
Building Bridges: Engage in workshops focused on structured dialogue and reconciliation, equipping you to advocate for justice and address youth issues in your community.
Harnessing Youth Potential: Discover how the youth can become catalysts for peace and share ideas to create impactful solutions.
Connecting Across Cultures: Learn NVC approaches and skills to bridge cultural differences and strengthen mental well-being in all societal
spheres.
Photo from Nairobi National Park by
Irmtraud Kauschat
A Journey from the Heart: A Year Long Path to Peaceful Living
Description
4th Wednesday of each month, January 22-December 17, 2025
11:00am to 12:30pm Pacific (California) Time
Looking to deepen your NVC practice and live it fully in your daily life? Join Mary Mackenzie, author of Peaceful Living: Daily Meditations for Living with Love, Healing, and Compassion, in 2025 for a
transformative year-long program designed to help you move from "learning" to "being." The Peaceful Living book is on our monthly book specials offered at 50% off !
This unique course offers monthly classes, small group support, daily meditations, journaling, and an online forum to connect with like-minded Peaceful Living enthusiasts. With ongoing insights and reflections from Mary, you'll have the tools and
community to embrace NVC in all its forms—through life's joys and challenges. Dive into a year of connection, presence, and personal growth!
In-Person Retreat: An Even Deeper Dive into Knowing and Living the Roots of NVC as Received Directly from Marshall Rosenberg, March 9-14, 2025
Description:
As First Generation NVC trainers, we have heard a desire from NVC practitioners and those steeped in NVC to understand what was stirred in Marshall in the creation and sharing of NVC teachings with the world and to connect with those who know the history and have lived NVC for over 30 years. This retreat is an opportunity to delve into
areas of NVC that may not have received as much attention as others in recent years, and to do so as we received it from Marshall.
The retreat, which will take place March 9-14, 2025 at Mary & Joseph Retreat Center at Rancho Palos Verdes (close to LAX airport in California), is intended to be an advanced-level exploration of NVC and is open to Certified Trainers and Candidates registered with CNVC. Others steeped in NVC may be considered on a case-by-case
basis.
Find out more about the First Generation NVCers and the event on their website: FirstGenNVCers
Nonviolent Communication is a way of relating for creating deep connections, as well as for preventing and resolving conflicts in ways that are mutually satisfying. NVC has its roots in clinical psychology, having been developed by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD, who studied under famous psychologist, Carl Rogers. Despite this
background, Marshall Rosenberg called himself “a recovering psychotherapist” because he had been taught to create a professional distance between himself and his patients — labeling, diagnosing, and pathologizing them. Part of his interest related to honesty and empathy, and how authentic human connection can be profoundly healing. He also recognized that when we are connected, conflicts are resolved much more quickly and easily. Dr. Rosenberg departed from clinical psychology in order to find
the essential elements in thought, language, communication, and the use of power that lead us toward the kind of connection that contributes to all of us having our needs met. The purpose of NVC is to create the high quality of connection out of which we spontaneously enjoy contributing to one another’s well-being...
TO REALLY GIVE other people what they need, the empathy and the nurturing that they need . . . we must be conscious that their pain has nothing to do with us.
Help Underserved Schools with Nonviolent Communication
The Relationship Foundation is a small nonprofit with a big vision, making an impact in Social and Emotional Learning by introducing Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
Nonviolent Communication is a practice of expressing one’s needs
and feelings without blame or judgment and listening empathically.
Teachers have commented that using NVC in the classroom has improved student behavior and academics. Another teacher said, “in my 20 years of teaching, I have never seen anything like this.”
Ten underserved schools have requested the curriculum and training sessions
for their students and teachers. Your donation will help provide much-needed training sessions and curricula for underserved schools.
THE MAIN THING is that I be conscious that I’m never the cause of the other person’s pain, but I do want to take responsibility for my behavior. See, I’m responsible for what I did. The other person is responsible for how they took it.
First Gen NVCers - This is a link to the website and resources of First Generation NVCers, a group of individuals certified by Marshall before 1990. First Generation NVCers want to transmit NVC as they received it from Marshall. Their website shares their experiences with Marshall and learnings from him, plus stories about how CNVC & NVC developed.
WOULD LIKE all of us to take full responsibility for two things: our actions and our feelings. Actually, the feelings are also caused by our actions, our thinking. How we choose to interpret things. So we’re responsible for our actions and for the thinking that causes our feelings. So nobody can make us do anything, nobody can make us angry, and nobody can hurt us.
OTHER PEOPLE CAN’T make us feel anything. Our feelings are a result of how we take things. We cannot make other people feel as they do. They are responsible for how they take it. We show we’re not responsible for how other people feel. We are responsible for our actions.
CNVC is committed to the vision of a critical mass of the world's population using Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to resolve differences peacefully. A strong community of qualified trainers will play an important role in the realization of this goal.
I KEEP A jackal book. A jackal book is just something to write on that I want to have handy at all times, so anytime I see myself getting disconnected and doing or living in a way that is not in harmony with how I choose to be, I’ll make a note of it, so I can learn from this. You see? So that’s one thing I can do. I can learn when I lose it.
The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) is a global organization that supports the learning and sharing of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and helps people peacefully and effectively resolve conflicts in personal, organizational, and political settings.
Stay Connected to the Values of Compassion With the Free 365 Daily Peaceful Living Meditations.
Birds sing after a storm; why shouldn’t people feel as free to delight in whatever remains to them?
—Rose Kennedy
Comparing Ourselves to Others
Comparisons are a form of judgment. There always seems to be someone who is better looking, more intelligent, or more enlightened than we are. Similarly, there seems to be an endless supply of people who are not as bright as we, who are worse drivers, and
who are less witty. The minute we compare ourselves to other people, we are setting ourselves up for pain and discouragement. We are setting them up, too, and erecting a barrier between ourselves and them.
Try your very best to avoid comparisons. Instead, notice how you feel about other people’s assets or foibles. Rather than saying that your neighbor is more beautiful than you are, consider enjoying her beauty and acknowledging that you would like to improve
your own looks. Or better still, enjoy her beauty and enjoy what you think is beautiful about yourself. The more you avoid making comparisons, the more likely you are to create greater connections with others.
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