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October 2024

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Events

You'll be immersed in a community of people learning, practicing, and applying Nonviolent Communication from the moment you sign up. 

Each of CNVC's IITs are hosted in different countries and languages in effort to expand their reach for all who wish to experience the depth of NVC and connect with a growing community of passionate learners and practitioners.

Upcoming IITs

• Morocco - Starts October 11th
• Nigeria - Starts November 29th
• The Netherlands - Starts January 3rd
• India - Starts February 6th

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As First Generation NVC trainers, we have heard a desire from NVC practitioners and those steeped in NVC to understand what was stirred in Marshall in the creation and sharing of NVC teachings with the world and to connect with those who know the history and have lived NVC for over 30 years. This retreat is an opportunity to delve into areas of NVC that may not have received as much attention as others in recent years, and to do so as we received it from Marshall.

The retreat, which will take place March 9-14, 2025 at Mary & Joseph Retreat Center at Rancho Palos Verdes (close to LAX airport in California), is intended to be an advanced-level exploration of NVC and is open to Certified Trainers and Candidates registered with CNVC. Others steeped in NVC may be considered on a case-by-case basis.

Find out more about the First Generation NVCers and the event on their website: FirstGenNVCers 

To register, Click Here

For general questions about the event, please contact the First Gens at silgiraffe@aol.com and copy firstgennvcers@fastmail.com.  If you have registration questions, please contact Elke Haggerty at elke@process-works.ca.

Articles

Nonviolent Communication and Sexism

Introduction: Understanding the Intersection of Sexism and NVC

What is the intersection of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and sexism? 
Before diving deep into this intersection, I’d like to first clarify the purpose of this article, and the importance of addressing biases and blind spots.
From there I’ll define NVC, describe a bit how NVC applies to social issues in general, analyze the problematic nature of sexism — and then dive into the intersection and how we might use NVC to make things better. 

Purpose of the Article 

This article has multiple purposes: 

• to explain Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in a straightforward and relatable way,
• to articulate what sexism is and why it is problematic,
• to support you in noticing any blind spots or hidden biases you might have with regard to your own relationship with sexism, and,
• to explore this intersection and how NVC can help.

The Importance of Addressing Biases and Blind Spots 

Just like a car’s side-mirrors have blind spots, so do people. 
And the thing about blind spots is that, by definition, you don’t see your own. 
We need others to help point them out. 
This can be done in a harsh way, in a way that’s full of blame, guilt, or shame. 
And it can be done with care and compassion, ideally with consent — though sometimes interventions are necessary and life-serving...

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Exciting News for NVC Enthusiasts!

We are thrilled to announce the launch of our new podcast, “webe Parents,” hosted by Dr. Alona Pulde, a practitioner of NVC, and her work and life partner, Dr. Matthew Lederman, a CNVC Certified Trainer. This podcast is dedicated to helping families integrate Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and our approach of collaborative non-permissive parenting into their daily lives, bringing people together, and transforming conflict into connection. Whether you're new to NVC or a long-time practitioner, "webe Parents" offers practical insights and tools to foster understanding and harmony within your family.

Listen now at webeparents.com

Enemy images are the main reason conflicts don’t get resolved.

Marshall Rosenberg

Fundraisers

Would you like to support others to learn NVC?

Many people across the world are longing to learn NVC, but they don’t have the financial means to do so. The NVC Academy provides many discounts and full scholarships each year. We enjoy offering these even as they affect our sustainability. As a way to continue being able to support those who are unable to pay for NVC courses, we started the Community Support Fund. This is a place where you may choose to contribute financially towards other people’s registrations to our courses AND expand the spread of NVC in the world.

Contribute to the Community Support Fund

Your contribution helps to spread NVC consciousness and every penny goes to people who are requesting financial support to attend a live course. Thank you in advance for choosing to share resources with members of our community so they may learn the life-changing power of NVC!

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Join this online learning experience of Nonviolent Communication to master NVC and support Diversity, Equity and Inclusion for the training in Nigeria. Get the opportunity to learn how to cultivate compassionate communication skills and explore ways to build a more harmonious and peaceful community. 6 sessions from July to October 2024, and their recordings!

These events are designed to support the Nigerian International Intensive Training (IIT) (29-Nov to 08-Dec 2024) and its mission of promoting conflict resolution, resilience in relationships, and collaborative problem-solving. By participating in any of these sessions, you will not only enhance your own effective communication but also help all people who cannot afford paying any tuition, nor room, board & travel expenses.

Many people in Nigeria are becoming peacemakers in their communities, and yet the vast majority of them lack the resources and finances to receive formal training to advance their skills. If we can raise funds, more of them will be able to attend the Center for Nonviolent Communication’s 9-day intensive training in November 2024.

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Book Specials

Blaming and punishing others are superficial expressions of anger.

Marshall Rosenberg

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CDs and DVDs 

We offer Audio and Video of Marshall Rosenberg's teachings and wisdom.  Nonviolent Communication provides powerful tools for resolving differences at personal, professional, and political levels. Dr. Rosenberg first created and began to offer Nonviolent Communication skills training to peacefully integrate schools and other public institutions during the 1960s. Since then, Dr. Rosenberg and his associates have introduced NVC in over thirty countries to educators, students, parents, managers, mental health and health care providers, military officers, peace activists, lawyers and mediators, prisoners, police and clergy, and more. Listen or watch to the first 10 minutes of every dvd/cd!!!

These dvd’s and cd’s are copyrighted. Purchasing these from the Puddledancer Press website ensures that royalties will be paid to the Rosenberg foundation. If you view these videos/cds from other sites then no royalties are paid. Thank you for your consideration.

Video Details 

• The Basics of NVC
  • Runtime: 4 hours
  • $9.95 
• Making Life Wonderful
  • Runtime: 8 hours
  • $12.95

Audio Details 

• Expressing and Receiving Anger Compassionately 
• Giraffe Fuel for Life 
• Needs and Empathy 
• Live Compassionately 
• Intimate Relationships 
• Experiencing Needs as a Gift 
• $4.95 each

Poem

Accentuate the positive.

Balance work, rest and play.

Communicate with respect.

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Encourage healthy habits.

Find ways to say, “I love you”.

Grow with love and laughter.

Help you do for yourself.

Inspire interdependence.

Juggle schedules to “be there”.

Know there are no “perfect families”.

Look for the best in each other.

Make the world a better place.

Never created by accident.

Openly talk about whatever’s up.

Provide safety and security.

Quickly mend fences and move on.

Remind you of your uniqueness.

Savor memories and traditions.

Take time to really listen and care.

Understand how precious “family time” is.

Value everyone’s feelings and needs.

Work things out peacefully.

Xperience life’s ups and downs together.

Yearn to make a difference.

Zoom in on what really matters.

© Meiji Stewart

Criticism, analysis, and insults are tragic expressions of unmet needs.

Marshall Rosenberg

Handouts

• NVC Summary of Basic Concepts
• Key Facts About NVC
• The 4-Part NVC Process
• Feelings and Needs We All Have
• Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings from John Kinyon © John Kinyon, NVC trainer and author of Mediate Your Life
• First Gen NVCers - This is a link to the website and resources of First Generation NVCers, a group of individuals certified by Marshall before 1990. First Generation NVCers want to transmit NVC as they received it from Marshall. Their website shares their experiences with Marshall and learnings from him, plus stories about how CNVC & NVC developed.
• Giraffes Around the World CNVC Playlist with 200+ videos

• Cascadia Workshops – Intro to NVC Handout
• Street Giraffe – Handy Handouts
• NVC Next Gen – NVC Informational Handouts
• Radical Compassion – NVC Handouts
• Nonviolent Communication Handouts
• Marshall Rosenberg NVC Handouts
• Marshall Rosenberg Videos on Youtube

We are responsible for what we hear other people say and for how we act.

Marshall Rosenberg

Book Excerpts

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The cause of anger lies in our thinking – in thoughts of blame and judgment.

Marshall Rosenberg

NVC in the News

• 8 Books on Relationship Management Everyone Should Read | Times Now News
• World BEYOND War Burundi: Health AND Nonviolent Communication | World Beyond War

Resources

Behind intimidating messages are simply people appealing to us to meet their needs.

Marshall Rosenberg

Learning

The NVC Academy offers hundreds of affordable online personal growth courses and resources to learn Nonviolent Communication from home.

Visit the NVC Academy

The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) is a global organization that supports the learning and sharing of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and helps people peacefully and effectively resolve conflicts in personal, organizational, and political settings.

Visit CNVC.org/learn/intensive-trainings

We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

Marshall Rosenberg

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