December 2025 Newsletter - Nonviolent Communication and Shame

Published: Wed, 12/03/25

Updated: Wed, 12/03/25

NVC Monthly Newsletter

December 2025

Our website covers over 50 different topics from an NVC perspective-all written by a senior certified trainer. Our latest topic was written on NVC and Shame. Please read some to learn more.

If you are new to Nonviolent Communication please visit our page on the basics of Nonviolent Communication.

We hope you find value in the resources we are providing today! We invite you to share with friends, family, colleagues, and others, if you believe they might also find value in this.

Please stay safe and healthy!

Thank you :)

PuddleDancer Press

What You'll Find in This Month's Newsletter:

Events

Upcoming International Intensive Trainings (IIT)
Peer Parenting Leadership Program starting Feb 2026
The Journey Toward NVC Certification starting Apr 2026

Fundraisers

Empower Students with NVC - The Relationship Foundation

Articles

Nonviolent Communication and Shame

Book Specials

50% OFF both full Retail and eBooks Price

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
- Learn more about the book
- Buy the book on special
Comunicación no Violenta
- Learn more about the book
- Buy the book on special
Teaching Children Compassionately
- Learn more about the book
- Buy the book on special
We Can Work It Out
- Learn more about the book
- Buy the book on special

Distance Learning Opportunities

NVC Academy
The Center for Nonviolent Communication Trainings

Book Excerpts

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life - Chapter 3
Comunicación no Violenta - Chapter 1
Teaching Children Compassionately - Chapter 1
We Can Work It Out - Chapter 1

Handouts

Downloads
Recommended Links

Featured Book

When I Listen People Speak and Come Alive by Allan Rohlfs

Peaceful Daily Reflection/Meditation

Uncovering Your Greatest Need

Poem

Dare To...

Resources

Becoming a CNVC Certified Trainer
Guidelines for Sharing NVC for Individuals who are not Certified Trainers

NVC Resources

NVC TIP SERIES (Free daily and weekly tips)
FREE RESOURCES
NVC FACEBOOK GROUPS
NEW ** NVC LINKEDIN GROUPS ** NEW

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Events

CNVC - International Intensive Trainings

Description

You'll be immersed in a community of people learning, practicing, and applying Nonviolent Communication from the moment you sign up.

Each of CNVC's IITs are hosted in different countries and languages in effort to expand their reach for all who wish to experience the depth of NVC and connect with a growing community of passionate learners and practitioners.

Upcoming IITs

India - Starts January 31st, 2026
United States(CA) - Starts February 8th, 2026
Spain - Starts March 27th, 2026
Taiwan - Starts April 3rd, 2026

Learn More

Peer Parenting Leadership Program

Beginning February 2026

Online Training

The PPLP is a nine-month program, co-lead by Ingrid Bauer (Certified Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication - CNVC) Stephanie Bachmann Mattei, (CNVC Certified Trainer and CNVC Assessor) and Mary May (CNVC Certified Trainer) aimed at nurturing and developing leaders who are committed to spreading Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to parents, teachers and youth-serving professionals in their communities, especially in those regions where there are no NVC trainers.

Read the Intro Letter By Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

For more information about the program and to register please visit: https://www.nvc-pplp.com/

The Journey Toward NVC Certification(JTNC)

Are you on the path of learning, integrating, and sharing NVC with others? Would you like to learn and practice with a group of people from around the world – from Asia through Africa and Europe to North and South America?

On 16th April 2026 we start the sixth cohort of a fully online 18 month program of 36 sessions offered by LIVKOM.

Prerequisite: 12 days of training with a CNVC certified trainer.

The programs curriculum is divided into three six-month semesters:

From learning and knowing all the elements of NVC, to integrating and living NVC
From living NVC in all my thinking, speaking and acting in daily life, to sharing NVC with others
Sharing NVC with others while caring for own resources, and continue learning in a warm, supportive community.

Learn More

Fundraiser

The Relationship Foundation

Empower Students with Nonviolent Communication

The Relationship Foundation is on a mission!

Please help us bring our curriculum to underfunded schools in New York City and beyond. We are a 501(c)(3) nonprofit.

We implement Relationship Education (Social and Emotional Learning) in schools and social service organizations. We introduce the fundamentals of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), empowering students to activate their critical thinking, articulate their needs and feelings without blame or judgment, and to listen empathically.

Join us in making schools safer with Nonviolent Communication.

Learn More

Articles

Transforming Shame with Nonviolent Communication

by Alan Rafael Seid, CNVC Certified Trainer

This article is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe treatment for mental illness of any kind, nor is it intended to replace evaluation or treatment by a qualified professional.

Introduction: Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and Shame

Shame is a powerful emotion.

It can leave you paralyzed or hiding parts of yourself that you are afraid others might see.

Shame blocks the learning and growing process, and prevents you from connecting to a source of life energy that is there, underneath the shame.

Nonviolent Communication, or NVC, can help you transform and transcend shame in a way that leads to learning and greater wholeness....

For more than 60 topics, please visit www.nonviolentcommunication.com

Always hear the ‘Yes’ in the ‘No’.

Marshall Rosenberg

Book Specials

Avoid ‘shoulding’ on others and yourself!

Marshall Rosenberg

Humor

Poem

Find more poems and toons at shoot.for.the.moon_cartoons

Ask before offering advice or reassurance.

Marshall Rosenberg

Handouts

Nonviolent Communication Free Handouts and Links

Downloads:

NVC Summary of Basic Concepts
Key Facts About NVC
The 4-Part NVC Process
Feelings and Needs We All Have
Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings from John Kinyon © John Kinyon, NVC trainer and author of Mediate Your Life
First Gen NVCers - This is a link to the website and resources of First Generation NVCers, a group of individuals certified by Marshall before 1990. First Generation NVCers want to transmit NVC as they received it from Marshall. Their website shares their experiences with Marshall and learnings from him, plus stories about how CNVC & NVC developed.
Giraffes Around the World CNVC Playlist with 200+ videos

Recommended Links:

Translate all self-judgments into self-empathy.

Marshall Rosenberg

When we judge others we contribute to violence.

Marshall Rosenberg

Book Excerpts

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life - Chapter 3

Read the excerpt here

Comunicación no Violenta - Chapter 1

Read the excerpt here

Teaching Children Compassionately - Chapter 1

Read the excerpt here

We Can Work It Out - Chapter 1

Read the excerpt here

Empathy lies in our ability to be present without opinion.

Marshall Rosenberg

Resources

Certified Trainers & Sharing NVC

CNVC is committed to the vision of a critical mass of the world's population using Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to resolve differences peacefully. A strong community of qualified trainers will play an important role in the realization of this goal.

Introduction to the Certification Process

Guidelines for Sharing NVC for Individuals who are not Certified Trainers

The more we empathize with the other party, the safer we feel.

Marshall Rosenberg

Learning

NVC Academy

The NVC Academy offers hundreds of affordable online personal growth courses and resources to learn Nonviolent Communication from home.

Visit the NVC Academy

The Center for Nonviolent Communication

The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) is a global organization that supports the learning and sharing of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and helps people peacefully and effectively resolve conflicts in personal, organizational, and political settings.

Visit CNVC.org/learn/intensive-trainings

Featured Book

When I Listen People Speak and Come Alive

Now Available on Kindle!

Learn More

At the root of every tantrum and power struggle are unmet needs.

Marshall Rosenberg

Peaceful Daily Reflection

Stay Connected to the Values of Compassion With the Free 365 Daily Peaceful Living Meditations.

It seems to me we can never give up longing and wishing while we are alive. There are certain things we feel to be beautiful and good, and we must hunger for them.

—George Eliot

Uncovering Your Greatest Need

When I was forty-one years old, I discovered that my greatest need in life was to connect deeply with other people. We can be unaware of the underlying needs that drive our behavior for years, and as a result be unable to meet them. Take a few moments to review the last three arguments you had with someone. It could be three arguments with one person, or with different people. Notice if there is an underlying theme in all three. Then review the list of needs at the front of this book and try to identify what the need is. The chances are good that all of the arguments were the result of the same need. It is likely that this is your greatest need. Pay attention to your arguments over the next few weeks and see if most of them stem from the same need. If they do, take a moment to brainstorm ways that you can meet it without creating conflict. This is the first step toward living in ways that are likely to meet your greatest need.

Take a few moments today to review your last three arguments. Notice if they all stemmed from the same unmet need

Learn About the Book Here

NVC Additional Resources

NVC TIP SERIES (Free daily and weekly tips)
FREE RESOURCES
NVC FACEBOOK PAGES

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