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NVC 3rd Edition Spanish
Special Price $3.95(Regular Price $19.95)
There are many people who speak Spanish as their primary language that would benefit from this translation. We have priced the book (for about the cost of a cup of coffee) hoping it will entice you to buy one or some and share it with others who would benefit. Marshall used to say there was nothing more wonderful than helping others. Thank you for considering this – maybe just tell others of this affordable
offer if you choose not to buy and share.
"The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of
others."
~Mahatma Gandhi
Featured Article
How to Balance With the News
Published on BayNVC
By Oren Jay Sofer, Collaborative Trainer at BayNVC
More and more these days I find myself dreading looking at the news or the notifications on my phone. Whether it’s a domestic shooting, a tropical storm, or the rainforest in flames, it can feel overwhelming to stay abreast of what’s happening yet impossible to turn away and unplug. Many of the people I meet at retreats and trainings aren’t sleeping well; they have trouble focusing at work. They’re angry, hopeless, or in despair. The news
takes over conversations with friends and loved ones.
It’s natural to feel overwhelmed, and in many ways it’s important to allow ourselves to feel fully the intensity of our emotional response to tragedy. Experiencing completely the pain and grief of a broken heart and a world in turmoil is the doorway to transformation, healing and action. At the same time, feeling perpetually overwhelmed isn’t helpful. Given the intensity of our times, finding balance in relation to current events is
essential for our ability to stay engaged and meet the challenges upon us. The awareness at the heart of Nonviolent Communication can help us to find more inner stability and clarity in relational to current events.
"Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul. It is daily
admission of one's weakness. It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart."
~Mahatma Gandhi
Article
Can We Transform the Social Order Through Personal Practice?
Nonviolent communication can help transform society
Published on PsychologyToday.com
By Miki Kashtan Ph.D.
Some years ago, I was asked to write a review of a book about which I loved everything except the title: Toward a Socially Responsible Psychology for a Global Era.[1] What I most appreciated in that book was that psychologists were taking to task their own profession, delving into critiques long levelled against psychotherapy, and finding painful merit in them.
There’s nothing in psychotherapy as it’s commonly done, or even psychological research and policy, that makes it transformative of the social order. At best, it helps individuals find more personal resilience within the existing system. At worst, focusing on the individual distracts the gaze from social conditions and system considerations, leaving individuals less equipped to see clearly what is in front of them, and to join with others
to work for change.
"Non-violence is the greatest force at the disposal of
mankind. It is mightier than the mightiest weapon of destruction devised by the ingenuity of man."
~Mahatma GandhI
Article
What You Say Matters
Published on The Western Star
By Belle DeMont
My quest and curiosity of understanding how we can communicate more kindly to each other began as an elementary school classroom teacher. I was teaching in a grade one classroom, an age where children are learning to communicate for themselves, take responsibility for themselves and like a sponge, are ready to absorb the skills to do so. I realized that I too was seeking skills and methods of communication that allowed me to connect with
others and — unbeknownst to me at the time — myself, more fully.
NVC: Is it Effective in the Treatment of Sex Offenders?
by Tim Buckley
Nick was a model prisoner in his last decade at Oregon’s maximum security prison. In for armed robbery, Nick had begun to turn around his life of drugs and violent crime before joining NVC as a student in the yearlong program. Over a period of five years, mentoring under a Certified NVC trainer, he mastered NVC and became an instructor in Oregon Prison Project’s Peer Training program. In his final year at the penitentiary, he appeared to
me as confident yet humble in his leadership role. While working full time as a mechanic in the auto shop, Nick had also volunteered as a mentor to mentally unstable inmates, assisting staff counselors with the teaching and practice of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). The state Parole Board let him out of his final years in prison because he presented a compelling case for accountability, honesty and emotional stability.
A career freelance writer, Tim co-authored a book released in 2018 called SO, The New Scarlet Letters. It is a book about sex offenses, their treatment and our challenges. His NVC work in prison is cited as being complimentary with the work of his co-author Marilyn Callahan, who pioneered sex offender treatment beginning in the 1950s. For those interested in contacting him: 2tbucktoo@gmail.com. For those interested in the book, you can find sample chapters and reviews on Amazon.
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"Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and
what you value."
~Marshall B. Rosenberg
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Comunicación no Violenta
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There are many people who speak Spanish as their primary language that would benefit from this translation. We have priced the book (for about the cost of a cup of coffee) hoping it will entice you to buy one or some and share it with others who would benefit. Marshall used to say there was nothing more wonderful than helping others. Thank you for considering this – maybe just tell others of this affordable
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What is Violent Communication?
If "violent" means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate—judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or judging who's "good/bad" or what's "right/wrong" with people—could indeed be called
"violent communication."
What is Nonviolent Communication? Nonviolent Communication is the integration of four things:
consciousness,
language,
communication,
and means of influence.
Nonviolent Communication serves our desire to increase our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection, connect empathically with self and others to have more satisfying relationships, and to share resources so everyone is able to benefit.
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¿Qué es la comunicación violenta?
Si ser "violento" significa actuar de forma que lastima o daña, una buena parte de nuestra comunicación – cuando incluye juzgar a otros, hacer bullying, tener prejuicios raciales, echar la culpa, acusar, discriminar, hablar sin escuchar, criticar a otros o a nosotros mismos, insultar, reaccionar cuando tenemos rabia, usar retórica política, estar a la defensiva o juzgar a otros de "buenos / malos" o de actuar
"bien / mal" – podría en efecto llamarse "comunicación violenta".
¿Qué es la Comunicación No Violenta? La Comunicación No Violenta es la integración de cuatro aspectos:
• Consciencia: una serie de principios que ayudan a vivir desde la compasión, la colaboración, la valentía y la autenticidad.
• Lenguaje: entender cómo las palabras contribuyen a crear conexión o distancia.
• Comunicación: saber cómo pedir lo que queremos, cómo escuchar a otros incluso cuando no estamos de acuerdo y cómo orientarnos hacia soluciones que funcionen para todos.
• Medios de influencia: compartir el "poder con otros" en vez de utilizar el "poder sobre otros". La Comunicación No Violenta está al servicio de nuestro deseo de hacer tres cosas:
• Incrementar nuestra habilidad de vivir con poder de elección, significado y conexión.
• Conectar empáticamente con nosotros mismos y con los otros para tener relaciones más satisfactorias.
• Compartir recursos para que todos puedan beneficiarse.
Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD (1934–2015) founded and was for many years the Director of Educational Services for the Center for Nonviolent Communication, an international peacemaking organization. During his life he authored fifteen books, including the bestselling Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (PuddleDancer Press), which has sold more than one million copies worldwide and has been translated
into more than 30 languages, with more translations in the works.Dr. Rosenberg has received a number of awards for his Nonviolent Communication work... Read more...
"Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on
your own needs."
~Marshall B. Rosenberg
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From the book Peaceful Living-Daily Meditations for Living, Love and Compassion
by Mary Mackenzie
Speech is a mirror of the soul: as a man speaks, so is he.
-Pubilius Syrus
Tragic Expressions of Unmet Needs
Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD, who developed the Compassionate Communication process, uses the phrase “tragic expressions of unmet needs” to illustrate how often we do things that aren’t likely to meet our needs. The copy machine doesn’t work, so you hit it and scream at it. I’m guessing you’re frustrated because you would like ease and predictability when using it. Will hitting and screaming help you meet this need?
How about the ways that you communicate with other people? For example, your husband forgets to change the oil in your car for the third week in a row, so you say: “You haven’t done that yet? Do I have to do everything?” I’m guessing you’re angry and confused, and want relief, support, and fairness. In another example, you may feel angry, hurt, or scared when someone yells at you on the phone, so you shut down and don’t say anything. Is it possible for you to meet your needs for understanding,
consideration, and respect if you don’t say anything? It’s not that the way you communicate is bad; it’s tragic, because it won’t help you meet your needs.
This simple realization was transformative for me and it helped catapult me into changing my behaviors to better meet my needs. So, the next time you feel hurt, angry, sad, or disappointed, consider the potential results of the action you’re about to take. Will it help you meet your needs? If not, consider a different approach that is more likely to satisfy you.
Today, notice how often you do things that will
not help you meet your need in the situation.
Make a different choice that will.
Peaceful Living-Daily Meditations for Living, Love and Compassion By Mary Mackenzie
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