NVC for these challenging times – a mix of Learning, Love and Laughter

Published: Tue, 07/07/20

  July 2020
 
NVC Monthly Newsletter
 

We wanted to bring you more information on Covid and Racism. We have added new podcasts and articles about these two very challenging issues that are foremost in our minds right now.

We have our brand new resource rich website covering over 35 categories/topics of interest and so much more. We are still working on this to add additional features and more valuable information to make it even more helpful. Please share with friends, family, colleagues and social groups, if you believe they might find value in this. We hope you agree. We welcome any and all feedback! Please stay safe and healthy for yourself, your loved one’s, for our first responders, for all of our front line workers and for everybody! Please visit us at www.nonviolentcommunication.com

PuddleDancer Press donated $10,000 during the fundraiser. We also held a 3 day promotion to donate all books sale. From that promotion we raised $2,811.70. Thank you to everyone who participated in our fundraiser for CNVC! As of today CNVC has raised $48,715. There is still time to donate by visiting: https://www.cnvc.org/raised-for-cnvc.

Thank you : )
PuddleDancer Press

What You'll Find in This Month's Newsletter:
Articles
  • 4 Ways to Communicate Effectively This Week
  • Nonviolent Communication and Conflict Resolution
  • Power-with Parenting
  • Communicating in COVID
Audios/Videos
  • Oprah + 100 Black Fathers
  • I Have a Dream Speech by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
  • Ask Yourself
  • Jim Carrey's Inspirational and Motivational Graduation Speech
  • Effective Requests to Partner & Family Around Corona
Book Specials
Book Excerpt - The Healing Power of Empathy
  • 3 short Book Excerpts
    • Empathy at Home
    • Empathy at Work
    • Empathy in the Community
Compassion in Action
  • 15 Easy Ways to Spread Kindness
Distance Learning Opportunities
  • The Compassion Course Online 2020 - Registration ends tomorrow 7/8
  • NVC Academy
  • The Center for Nonviolent Communication Trainings
Humor
  • Life is like a menu… - ANVC (Almost Nonviolent Communication) Cartoons
Handouts
  • From our new website handout page
NVC in the News
  • Three NVC articles in the news
    • Practicing Nonviolent Communication in Software Development
    • Doing Conflict Better
    • Raising Children Compassionately
Peaceful Daily Reflection/Meditation
  • Acknowledging Other People’s Reality
Podcasts
  • Thom Bond - A Conversation Between Two Americans; One of Them Black & One of Them White
  • Thom Bond - Feelings, Needs, and the Coronavirus
Poem
  • Call Me by My True Names by Thich Nhat Hahn
Quotes From a Variety of Sources
  • Marshall Rosenberg, Carl Rogers and more
Songs
  • 3 Inspiring & Meaningful Songs
    • Now You Belong in Heaven - Mari Olsen
    • I Am the Light - India Arie
    • Circle of Peace - Ziggy Marley
NVC Resources (scroll down to bottom)
  1. NVC TIP SERIES (Free daily and weekly tips)
  2. FREE RESOURCES
  3. NVC FACEBOOK GROUPS
 
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"Only from the Heart can you touch the Sky"
Rumi

Articles
4 Ways to Communicate Effectively This Week by Hannah Lott-Schwartz

Having hard conversations is inevitable, but they don’t have to escalate. Here, two nonviolent-communication trainers share their tips for engaging in constructive dialogue.

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Power-with Parenting by Victoria Kindle Hodson & Sura Hart

We hope you are staying healthy and finding your footing, at least in some ways, in the new world we find ourselves in. We are all navigating new paths, not only in the practical, daily activities we used to take for granted such as grocery shopping, getting a haircut, or holding a birthday party but also in family relationships that are being tested in ways we couldn’t have predicted...

Letter #3: Power-with Parenting
Letter #2: Take Your Time, It's Yours
Letter #1: Checking in With Yourself & Your Kids

Communicating in COVID Interview with Oren Jay Sofer by Alex Tzelnic

Whether our conversations are IRL or on the internet, it can be hard to know the right thing to say right now. Mindful communication teacher Oren Jay Sofer shares his advice...

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Resources on the New Website
Nonviolent Communication and Conflict Resolution

“With Nonviolent Communication skills, you can help strengthen your relationship with your family, friends, coworkers, and even passers by on the street by fostering empathy and compassion for those with unresolved needs manifesting as “conflict mentality.”
-Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD.

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Podcasts
A Conversation Between Two Americans; One of Them Black & One of Them White

This is a generative conversation between Thom Bond (author of The Compassion Course) and Reverend Dr. Michael Christie (Chaplain). They discuss, race, fear, disconnection, slavery, universal human needs, police violence, and much more. It provides a perspective on where we Americans are, how we got here, where we’re headed, and what we can do right now.

Listen Here

The Coronavirus Trilogy

The Coronavirus Trilogy started out as a single episode in Thom’s podcast and turned into a mini-course on how to use the skills of The Compassion Course (and book) to get through our shared health crisis.

Listen Here

Collaborating in the Workplace | Humanizing Health Care |
Life-Enriching Education

Compassion in Action
Compassion in Action: 15 Easy Ways to Spread Kindness
By Sara Schairer, Founder and Executive Director of Compassion It

Adding a dose of compassion to someone else’s day not only uplifts their spirits, but makes you feel happier, too. And while most of us intend to be compassionate beings every day, our hectic schedules and busy lives can often get in the way of simply being kind to one another.

The amazing thing though, is that even the smallest, most simple gesture can brighten someone’s day and make you feel more connected to others. Check out these 15 quick and easy ways to sprinkle compassion into your day—even the busiest person on the planet will be able to fit these onto the calendar. Take note of what happens when you introduce these small acts of compassion into your life...

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"Give up the role of master creator and move into the dance of life. "
Margaret Wheatley

Distance Learning Opportunities
The Compassion Course Online 2020 - Last day to register is TOMORROW

For anyone who is inspired to have more compassion, understanding and harmony in their lives and in our world
Changing Lives for 10 Years, connecting in 15 languages, with more than 24,000 participants in 115 Countries.
Registration closes July 8th at 11:00AM EDT

What You'll Learn:

  • Experience more harmony and understanding with important people in your life
  • Have less painful, shorter conflicts
  • Have more awareness of your needs, wants and desires
  • Have your needs expressed and understood
  • Increase congruence between your values and actions
  • Translate judgments into dialogues & requests
  • Increase harmony and understanding among others
  • Stay more centered, open and effective in conflicts

Register for The Compassion Course Online

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NVC Academy
The NVC Academy offers hundreds of affordable online personal growth courses and resources to learn Nonviolent Communication from home.

Visit the NVC Academy

The Center for Nonviolent Communication
The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) is a global organization that supports the learning and sharing of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and helps people peacefully and effectively resolve conflicts in personal, organizational, and political settings.

Visit CNVC.org/Trainings
Donate to the Fundraiser here

"The creation of a more peaceful and happier society has to begin from the level of the individual, and from there it can expand to one’s family, to one’s neighborhood, to one’s community and so on."
Dalai Lama

Book Excerpt
The Healing Power of Empathy - 3 short book Excerpts: at home, at work, & in the community

Read the excerpts here

"You have never done anything wrong. You never have. You never will. You’ve done some things, that if you knew then what you are learning now, you would do it differently. And (the fun part is), it will always be this way."
Marshall Rosenberg

Quotes by Carl Rogers
In 1961 Rosenberg received a PhD in Clinical Psychology from University of Wisconsin, where he met his mentor, psychologist Carl Rogers.

“The very essence of the creative is its novelty, and hence we have no standard by which to judge it”

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am,
then I can change.”

“The good life is a process, not a state of being.
It is a direction not a destination.”

"The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change."

"What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly."

"When I look at the world I'm pessimistic,
but when I look at people I am optimistic."

"In a person who is open to experience each stimulus is freely relayed through the nervous system, without being distorted by any process of defensiveness."

To learn more about Carl Rogers visit his Wikipedia Page.

Handouts
Nonviolent Communication Free Handouts and Links

Visit our Handouts Page

“Sometimes you learn, grow and give far more when your back's against the wall.”
Rasheed Ogunlaru

Humor
ANVC (Almost Nonviolent Communication) Cartoons

“The true strength of a man is known under pressure.”
Martin Uzochukwu Ugwu

Videos
Oprah + 100 Black Fathers
Oprah Winfrey speaks with 100 Black fathers about navigating systemic racism and having "the talk" with their children. Tyler Perry, Courtney B. Vance, "Killer Mike" and Shaka Senghor share their experiences parenting Black children in this moment.
I Have a Dream speech by Martin Luther King .Jr
I've Wept, I've Wailed, I've Lost Count of the Names. Open Your Eyes to the Wreckage.
Jim Carrey Leaves the Audience SPEECHLESS | One of the Best Motivational Speeches Ever
Effective Requests to Partner & Family Around Corona

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover."
Mark Twain

Poem
Call Me by My True Names - Thich Nhat Hanh

Do not say that I'll depart tomorrow
because even today I still arrive.

Look deeply: I arrive in every second
to be a bud on a spring branch,
to be a tiny bird, with wings still fragile,
learning to sing in my new nest,
to be a caterpillar in the heart of a flower,
to be a jewel hiding itself in a stone.

I still arrive, in order to laugh and to cry,
in order to fear and to hope.
The rhythm of my heart is the birth and
death of all that are alive.

I am the mayfly metamorphosing on the surface of the river,
and I am the bird which, when spring comes, arrives in time
to eat the mayfly.

I am the frog swimming happily in the clear pond,
and I am also the grass-snake who, approaching in silence,
feeds itself on the frog.

I am the child in Uganda, all skin and bones,
my legs as thin as bamboo sticks,
and I am the arms merchant, selling deadly weapons to Uganda.

I am the twelve-year-old girl, refugee on a small boat,
who throws herself into the ocean after being raped by a sea pirate,
and I am the pirate, my heart not yet capable of seeing and loving.

I am a member of the politburo, with plenty of power in my hands,
and I am the man who has to pay his "debt of blood" to, my people,
dying slowly in a forced labor camp.

My joy is like spring, so warm it makes flowers bloom in all walks of life.
My pain is like a river of tears, so full it fills the four oceans.

Please call me by my true names,
so I can hear all my cries and laughs at once,
so I can see that my joy and pain are one.

Please call me by my true names,
so I can wake up,
and so the door of my heart can be left open,
the door of compassion.

Thich Nhat Hanh is a world renowned Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk, teacher, author, poet and peace activist. He was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize by Martin Luther King, Jr.  

News
NVC in the News!
Songs
Inspirational and Meaningful Songs!
Peaceful Living - Global Peace
Stay Connected to the Values of Compassion With the Free 365 Daily Peaceful Living Meditations.
Love is the recognition of Oneness, of knowing
yourself as other. The Oneness is love
—Eckhart Tolle

Acknowledging Other People’s Reality
Can you hold onto your reality while simultaneously acknowledging someone else’s reality? What I mean is, can you have an argument with your partner and speak up for your view of things, while also acknowledging his view? This ability is the ultimate goal. It eliminates right and wrong, good and bad. It demonstrates a willingness to accept that people may view things differently from us, and that we value their needs as much as our own...

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Sign Up for the 365 Daily Meditations

NVC - Additional Resources
  1. NVC TIP SERIES (Free daily and weekly tips)
  2. FREE RESOURCES
  3. NVC FACEBOOK PAGES

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Please be safe!

Warmly,
PuddleDancer Press
www.nonviolentcommunication.com

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