April 2021 Nonviolent Communication Newsletter

Published: Tue, 04/06/21

  April 2021
 
NVC Monthly Newsletter
 

We hope you find value in the resources we are providing today! We invite you to share with friends, family, colleagues, and others, if you believe they might also find value in this.

Our most recently updated topic is written on Restorative Justice. Our website covers over 35 different topics from an NVC perspective-all written by a senior certified trainer. Please read some to learn more.

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Please stay safe and healthy!

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PuddleDancer Press

What You'll Find in This Month's Newsletter:
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Upcoming Events
  • The Compassion Course - Online June 23rd, 2021 through June 22nd, 2022
Articles
  • Communication as a Powerful Force for Change - Rachelle Lamb
  • Non-Violent Communication – some foundation practices - Sunny Goddard
  • Fear - Jori Manske
  • Nonviolent Communication and Restorative Justice
Audios/Videos
  • Thom Bond Podcast "Needs, Feelings and Police Work"
  • Conversations about Living Compassion with Robert Gonzales. Two video interviews:
    • Spirituality of Nonviolent Communication
    • Consciousness, Communication, and Civilization
  • Compassion in Action - Man in the queue
Book Specials
Compassion in Action
  • Man in the queue
Distance Learning Opportunities
  • NVC Academy
  • The Center for Nonviolent Communication Trainings
New Course from Ike Lasater - Collaborating in the Workplace
Book Excerpts
  • Being Genuine - Chapter 1
  • Connecting Across Differences - Chapter 1
  • Graduating From Guilt - Chapter 1
Handouts
  • ZENVC's Communication Flow Chart
  • Lockdown Manual
Humor
  • ANVC (Almost Nonviolent Communication) Cartoons
  • PuddleDancer Press Cartoon from the book Anything is Possible
NVC in the News
  • Culture Of Empathy Builder Marshall Rosenberg | Dubai Khalifa
Peaceful Daily Reflection/Meditation
  • Being Honest About Our Anger
Resources
  • Becoming a CNVC certified trainer
  • Guidelines for Sharing NVC for Individuals who are not Certified Trainers
Songs
  • Chris Stapleton - Maggie's Song
    • For everybody who has ever had a ‘four legged furry baby’ aka dog (I have had several and have only experienced unconditional love with all of them.) Rainbow Bridge (below the song) is a beautiful poem about where our pets go when they pass and when we will be with them again.
Poem
  • Great Teachers...
NVC Resources
  1. NVC TIP SERIES (Free daily and weekly tips)
  2. FREE RESOURCES
  3. NVC FACEBOOK GROUPS
  4. NEW ** NVC LINKEDIN GROUPS ** NEW
 
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Events
The Compassion Course Online with Thom Bond
June 23rd, 2021 through June 22nd, 2022

"For anyone who wants to have more compassion, understanding and harmony in their lives and in our world”

As we humans have developed other technologies, the technology of compassion has been developed too. This course provides the “how to” of creating more connection, understanding, and compassion in our daily lives – a way to create a world we will be happy to leave our children’s children. The work is challenging, at times confronting, and with perseverance, practice, focus, and dedication, it works.

What You’ll Learn:
  • Experience more harmony and understanding with important people in your life
  • Have less painful, shorter conflicts
  • Have more awareness of your needs, wants and desires
  • Have your needs expressed and understood
  • Increase congruence between your values and actions
  • Translate judgments into dialogues & requests
  • Increase harmony and understanding among others
  • Stay more centered, open and effective in conflicts

Register Now!

"Don’t hate the circumstance, you may miss the blessing."
Marshall Rosenberg

Articles
Communication as a Powerful Force for Change - Rachelle Lamb

Any communication model that helps us to consciously choose productive responses instead of resorting to alienating knee-jerk responses is worth exploring.

For many people, our current mode of communication and associated language is often too small for what our hearts long to express. Much of our communication is based on the belief that human beings are inherently ignorant and need to be educated about what’s right and wrong and that there are certain people who are qualified to do that job. In the words of Joseph Chilton Pearce “All of us know intuitively that we are not by nature savage beasts. Fewer, however, are aware that we are driven to some fairly beastly behaviours by enculturation, despite the fact that the process itself is supposed to prevent this.”

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Non-Violent Communication – some foundation practices - Sunny Goddard

There are many different aspects of the model that is Non-Violent Communication (NVC). In this article I would like to outline one of the foundational pieces of NVC we can practise within ourselves.
If we are to have clearer, kinder and more effective communications with those around us, we need to begin with noticing how we think about (and judge) ourselves, as well as observing the kinds of conversations we have inside our own heads.
When trying anything new, it’s likely we will stumble and fall a few times. New ways of thinking and speaking can feel quite clunky at first, and we may feel confused and discouraged while we stretch and learn into a new way of thinking, being and doing...

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Fear - Jori Manske

Walking quickly and alone along a wooded path at the conference center, I heard heavy footsteps and I felt a stab of fear. I looked up to see a deer about 20 feet away on the hill. I felt relief and connected to the beauty of the life around me. Reflecting, I realized that I feared for my safety from another person who might be in the woods and might possibly want to harm me - one of US!

Reconciliation and connection are the antidote for the sense of fear many of us have of each other. Through the awareness of our interdependence and through compassion we can bring safety to us all. People do not harm others to whom they feel connected with compassion.

Read More 

"Fear of punishment diminishes self-esteem and goodwill."
Marshall Rosenberg

Resources on the New Website
Nonviolent Communication™ and Restorative Justice

“Restorative justice is based on the question: how do we restore peace? In other words, how do we restore a state in which people care about one another’s well-being?”
-Marshall B Rosenberg

Read More 

Being Genuine
Connecting Across Differences
Graduating from Guilt

Compassion in Action
Man in the queue

We have shared this before but because it’s such a powerful and compassionate example we wanted to share it again.

New Course from Ike Lasater
Collaborating in the Workplace
We recently sat down with Ike to learn more about the new course and what the PuddleDancer community, in particular, can learn from it. We got answers to questions like: "Why will this course be of special interest for people already familiar with NVC?" and "Why do you think it is important to share NVC skills with the business community?" Read it here!

Enroll in the course

Handouts
Nonviolent Communication Free Handouts and Links

ZENVC's Communication Flow Chart
Visit our Handouts Page

LOCKDOWN MANUAL
The Secret of Doing Easy Time
by Dorset Campbell-Ross

I have written a Lockdown Manual because I want to help people who are struggling with lockdown and isolation.
I was in boarding schools for 9 years, and in prison for three and half, so I have plenty of experience of lockdown. I learned lessons at that time that are very pertinent to the COVID-19 pandemic we are going through now - the most important being how to turn Hard Time into Easy Time. It's all about changing our mindset, and having done this, making choices that are most likely to meet our needs.

Watch a Short Video Intro Here 
Download the Guide Here 

"Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts."
Marshall Rosenberg

Book Excerpts
Being Genuine - Chapter 1

Read the excerpt here
Buy the book on special here - 50% off

Connecting Across Differences - Chapter 1

Read the excerpt here
Buy the book on special here - 50% off

Graduating From Guilt - Chapter 1

Read the excerpt here
Buy the book on special here - 50% off

Poem
Humor
ANVC (Almost Nonviolent Communication) Cartoons

Cartoons by Sven Hartenstein

Conceived by Meiji Stewart. Illustrated by David Blaisdell.

Audios/Videos
Thom Bond Podcast "Needs, Feelings and Police Work"
Spirituality of Nonviolent Communication
Consciousness, Communication, and Civilization

"Always hear the ‘Yes’ in the ‘No’."
Marshall Rosenberg

Resources
Becoming a CNVC Certified Trainer

CNVC is committed to the vision of a critical mass of the world's population using Nonviolent CommunicationSM (NVC) to resolve differences peacefully. A strong community of qualified trainers will play an important role in the realization of this goal.

Introduction to the Certification Process
Guidelines for Sharing NVC for Individuals who are not Certified Trainers

"Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies."
Marshall Rosenberg

Distance Learning Opportunities
NVC Academy
The NVC Academy offers hundreds of affordable online personal growth courses and resources to learn Nonviolent Communication from home.

Visit the NVC Academy

The Center for Nonviolent Communication
The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) is a global organization that supports the learning and sharing of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and helps people peacefully and effectively resolve conflicts in personal, organizational, and political settings.

Visit CNVC.org/Trainings

"Avoid ‘shoulding’ on others and yourself!"
Marshall Rosenberg

News
NVC in the News!
Songs
For everybody who has ever had a ‘four legged furry baby’ aka dog (I have had several and have only experienced unconditional love with all of them.) Rainbow Bridge (below the song) is a beautiful poem about where our pets go when they pass and when we will be with them again.
At the Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. By the edge of a wood, at the foot of a hill, is a lush, green meadow where time stands still. Where the friends of man and woman do run, when their time on earth is over and done. For here, between this world and the next, is a place where each beloved creature finds rest. On this golden land, they wait and they play, till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day. No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness, for here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness. Their limbs are restored, their health renewed, their bodies have healed, with strength imbued. They romp through the grass, without even a care, until one day they stop, and sniff at the air. All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back, then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack. For just at that instant, their eyes have met; Together again, both person and pet. So they run to each other, these friends from long past, the time of their parting is over at last. The sadness they felt while they were apart, has turned into joy once more in each heart. They embrace with a love that will last forever, and then, side-by-side, they cross over.......together!!!

"Ask before offering advice or reassurance."
Marshall Rosenberg

Peaceful Living - Being Honest About Our Anger
Stay Connected to the Values of Compassion With the Free 365 Daily Peaceful Living Meditations.
Few blame themselves until they have
exhausted all other possibilities.
—Anonymous

Being Honest About Our Anger
When I am angry, it is likely that I am not getting something that I want and that I think I should get, and I am about to say something that will ensure I won’t get it. When we blame other people, we place ourselves in a dangerous position of not meeting our needs in that relationship. Instead, take a deep breath and don’t say anything. While taking this breath, quietly acknowledge to yourself your unmet needs and feelings in the situation. Only when you have connected to your feelings and needs should you consider speaking to the other person.

Read More
Sign Up for the 365 Daily Meditations
Learn about the book here

NVC - Additional Resources
  1. NVC TIP SERIES (Free daily and weekly tips)
  2. FREE RESOURCES
  3. NVC FACEBOOK PAGES
  4. NEW ** NVC LINKEDIN GROUPS ** NEW

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